Symmetric relation
A symmetric relation is a relation on a set that relates every pair of distinct elements either both ways or not at all. Along with reflexivity and transitivity, symmetry is one of the defining properties of an equivalence relation.
Notice that this definition is a universal statement. To prove symmetry, you must show that for every two distinct elements in a pair, they are either both related to each other, or both not related. In simple terms, you just need to show that reversing the roles of the two elements in the relation does not change whether the relation holds true or not.
Marriage is an example of a symmetric relation on a set of people. Person \(1\) being married to Person \(2\) implies that Person \(2\) is married to Person \(1\), and conversely. (Under most legal systems.)
To disprove symmetry, you only need to come up with one pair of distinct elements where order matters. More exactly, find two distinct elements \(a, b\) such that \(aRb\), but \(b \not R a.\)
Anti-symmetry
An anti-symmetric relation is a relation on a set that either goes one way or not at all.
This is also a universal statement. To prove anti-symmetry, you must show that for every two distinct elements in a pair, the relation only goes one way, or does not exist between them at all. It would even suffice to show that two elements being related implies that they are the same element, since their distinctness is part of the definition of anti-symmetry.
Parenthood is an example of an anti-symmetric relation on a set of people. Person \(1\) being the parent of Person \(2\) implies that Person \(2\) is the child of Person \(1\), and therefore Person \(2\) cannot also be the parent of Person \(1.\)
To disprove anti-symmetry, you only need to come up with one pair of elements where order doesn't matter. More exactly, find two elements \(a, b\) such that \(aRb\) and \(bRa.\)